Recently I was asked what lingerie means to me and I realised that since my blog was born 12 months ago, my feelings have changed. I used to think it was a functional but pretty thing we put on our bodies that needed to fit well but then I started receiving some incredible messages from my Fairy BoobMother Group babes describing how what I do and what the group does and just what wearing that new bra does for them and I realised it actually means an awful bloody lot.
Today is International Women’s Day so what better day to discuss how lingerie empowers us and how we wear it for us. I asked a group of women which lingerie makes them feel their most fierce fabulous selves and the answers were, overwhelming, sexy, seductive pieces that we traditionally would have associated as being for the ‘male gaze’ but things have changed, women are now wearing these pieces for themselves. I know this because I am one of these women.
So why does lingerie have the ability to empower us so much. Well I am told, after fittings, that once people put on the correct size they suddenly feel absolutely incredible, that everything sits how & where it should, clothes fit better, they walk taller etc and maybe it is because it’s “ours” we choose who sees it and when and it’s like a secret superpower.. the S on our chest.
For the first time in a very long time I don’t just feel in control of my own body but I feel comfortable in my own skin… you helped me realise I’m beautiful
That quote is taken from a lady I fitted who had escaped an abusive relationship. The fact she had chosen and bought something for herself, for her body that had this ability to make her realise her beauty & strength shows just how empowering a simple bra can be.
This leads me on to the discussion I’ve had a few times which is largely started by the question “Does your husband mind you doing this..?” so let’s be clear;
No. he doesn’t, he actually takes my pictures (& he’s just brought me up a bowl of chips and brew as I’m writing this, how much more support does a girl need…?) but what exactly would he be opposed to? His wife, an individual, choosing to show off her body confidence, indulge in her passion and help other women realise their own worth whilst doing so.. why he must be crazy to “allow” me to do this… (insert eye rolls here x 1000)
The thing is we don’t need permission to feel good. We don’t need to dress up to please a partner, a stranger or anybody. We can dress in lingerie for ourselves. It also doesn’t matter if you are a size 8 or a size 28 or beyond, you still have every right to feel incredible in what you put on your body. I am a size 20 with 36J boobs – I am also a mum of 3 with a big ol’ belly and chunky thighs but quite frankly, I looking bloody amazing in lingerie. Does it empower me? Absoeffinglutley it does.
you and your words have helped me so much in the acceptance of myself. I love you & everything you stand for
Lingerie blogging might seem like a trivial, frivolous past time but it is, genuinely, a small step in a big journey for many women. Taking control, making choices and doing something indulgent is sometimes exactly what we need to realise our worth. Once we realise this, we never accept less.
Even though you might think it’s just about bras, it’s actually so much more.
All the sets shown in this post are from Brastop (just click the pictures to buy) and I chose the ones that really make me feel my best self. Which pieces make you feel your best?
This post contains affiliate links & some products have been gifted to me for review purposes.